posts on 8/15/2009 2:41:25 AM
To David...I just read your book. I am in awe and sickened by what you were put through. I am a mother of 3 beautiful boys. I cannot believe what that monster did to you (and your brother(s)). I just read your book..in one day..as most others have done. I was in tears and my stomach was sick...the courage you had at such a young age...my god...you are amazing. I am so sorry David for what you went through...but look at you now. I feel like I know you...keep being positive...you are a beautiful human being Sir...!! Thank you.!
posts on 6/30/2009 10:49:17 AM
Poor Dave. He was tormented as a boy by Richard who justified his cowardly actions by using Dave as a target for the "Mother's" wrath. You would think that Richard would have enough remorse and guilt not to mention shame for what he did to leave his brother in peace. Rather, he continues to torment him as an adult. I can hear his whining now,"Mom, Dave is eating food...." (nevermind that he (Richard) planted 1/2 a sandwhich in the dungeon (basement). Today we hear, "Hey everyone, look at me, I don't do this and this like Dave does..."
My thinking is, if Richard is truly sorry for how he acted as the Mother's Little Nazi, then he wouldn't be attacking Dave as is the case.
posts on 5/21/2009 7:08:28 PM
i belive that he forthey forgiven richard because he was not the only boy that what thuoght all of that they had to go through that unit they were 18 teen
posts on 5/19/2009 2:52:49 PM
I completely understand...
look, I been through ALOT of stuff similar to this and stuff that they have not gone through. Im 15 years old and have been through more stuff than alot of people can imagine. Now, you people say that David should have never forgiven Richard even though Richard was a young boy when this situation was accured. But what you have to understand is that, in order for you to get past that something or all that has happen to you, you have to have FORGIVESS. David had to forgive Richard. If you dont forgive who ever abused you, you will never forgive yourself. Believe me, i know. Im in Foster Care System now. I was taken from my mother at the age of 5, I have been in a little over 38 foster homes. The abuse that I have gone through in those foster homes over the years is unexplainable. I have suffered physical emotional and mental pain. I used to think about and have consitant nightmares about these homes its like it was always haunting me (like when people say it will haunt your dreams) thats exactly what it did, it haunted my dreams for as long as I can remember. It had a really big effect in my life but I got through that. I am now living in a great fostor home in MA that i love got a wonderful beautiful daughter whom i love with all my heart and a fantastic boyfriend which whom I wouldnt change for the world. But like I said already Dave should have definitly forgave Richard. And I do and always will give and show Dave my respect.
~The Lost Girl Who Found Her Way~
and if anyone has any comments about this message u can write me on my email which is LILFIGGA14@YAHOO.COM
posts on 3/13/2009 3:58:55 PM
I have just finished your brothers first two books and find them to be full of holes. Also an interview of him shows him to be well, kind of a joke. That irratates me to no end as a child survivor. I then proceeded to look you up and found you to be a little more like me. You have taken what life gave you, felt it was your duty(as survivors do) to then help others WITHOUT getting a big head. I think we need to hear more from true heros like you. Your brother seems to need more help in the recovery area. I understand what a situation like both of yours can turn a person into ,and he just needs more .... I dont know maybe more counslers to work through self worth issues.I dont like the idea of making money off kids and parents who actually need and look up to him. You would think after what he says he went through he would actually HELP these kids not use their money to promote himself. Thank you for your open honesty, and for telling us YOUR story. We need more survivos like you out there. I hope more kids get to your stories first. Again, THANK YOU.
posts on 1/18/2009 8:49:29 AM
su here again.i wish i could thank richard in person.i've just this minute finished teenagers journey and have finally found the answers i've been searching for all my life.its difficult to know how to move forward when speaking openly to people who couldn't possibly understand where your coming from or how you feel.your book has given me a gift that davids couldnt.perhaps if my teen years had been spent away from my mother as davids had,his books would have given me what yours has.i am going to write my mother what i have been trying to say to her for so many years and hopefully get the closure i so desperately need.many many thanks mr pelzer,i look forward to reading about your adult journey.x
posts on 1/17/2009 11:15:40 AM
differences in names between dave and richards books does not surprise me,with all that they were put through,confusion must be imminent.i too was abused as a child in the 70's,although not to these horrific degrees.i do find it hard to recollect my childhood,as if its been wiped clean,except for a few major incidents.the scary thing is that the memories are still there,they just come back when i least expect them and with the pain i must of blocked out at the time.hope and happiness to all,and many thanks to david and richard,you help me so much.x
posts on 1/11/2009 5:59:41 PM
I too have read "A child called "IT", The lost boy, and A man named Dave, I just read the one of Richard Pelzer called A brothers Journey, wow amazing men that made it through and I thought my childhood of abuse and neglect was bad, I went through many years being sexually abused along with my cousins, aunt uncles mom all of us were and abused also in other ways, I grew up with a mom that didnt care and family that kept it in the family, and also at that time the authorities would not intervene, my mom took me when i was a baby to the hospital on a couple of occasions when I had a diaper full of blood from being sexually molested, and nothing happened, to this day I ask why didnt they take me out of there??? I still dont understand how they could allow my mom to take me back to that place or even why my mom took me back, so I totally understood how they both Richard and David felt, and also see where the other 3 are blocking it all out, cause I have 2 brothers that do the same and will disagree with me that all of what happened happened, one of my brothers became the guy (grandmas husband) that did all those horrible things to us, he has touched my brother and a guy in jail, and who knows who else, and so did my cousins, and still to this day nobody has done anything about it all. They are all in denial of it all! They also believe it should be kept in the family, Me and one my brothers is now kinda outsiders, cause we moved away and changed our lives. So I see all the sides all the way around.
posts on 1/11/2009 7:02:59 AM
After reading Dave's disturbing trilogy I was excited to hear that Richard had written books also and while looking for them online one link led to another that led to this forum. I am shaking my head. I found Dave to be sooooo inspirational and profound in his journey to success. How disappointing that his brother is still trying to beat him down. Neither child should ever have had to endure what they did at The Mother's hands but now is a time for healing, not for continuing the negative, hurtful actions. I think I will stick with Dave Pelzer books. His forgiving and positive way of writing is uplifting and encouraging to those of us who have experienced abuse. No room in my life for more negativity.
I <3 Dave
posts on 12/22/2008 10:37:30 PM
I would love to know what the other Pelzer brothers are doing now, and what paths their lives took from having such a looney mom
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