posts on 5/19/2010 2:36:30 AM
I once again saw the movie and I always am amazed at Betty's fortitude.
I know there is always two sides to every story, but I lived for over 10 years with a husband who was physically violent and to hear him tell it he never laid a hand on me in violence, despite the medical records of my injuries. No person ever wants to admit they are a violent lunatic. Most serial killers think they are decent human beings.
I have often thought about Betty's experience and it has made me cautious of the men I choose to get into a relationship with. Betty's story has probably saved a lot of women. Thanks Betty!
posts on 3/14/2010 6:37:45 PM
i live in uk after been separeted for one year ,after a visitation order my ex abdacted my tree children to algeria last saturday. any one can help please
posts on 3/14/2010 1:37:53 AM
Many of you sound extremely ignorant.
posts on 3/4/2010 12:22:23 AM
Nicole, I couldn't agree with you more, which is why I did take the time to research both sides of this story. I not only read Betty Mahmoody's book and saw the movie based on her book, but I've read and listened to Seyyed Mahmoody's account as well.
That still does not take away from the fact that I LIVED through a very similar experience myself nearly 14 years before the one described by Betty. So when she alleges that "Moody's" entire personality changed once he was again surrounded by his Iranian family, I believe her. When she describes how he suddenly turned against anything having to do with American culture, I believe her. When she states she was held captive and not allowed to leave the home without permission and supervision, I believe her. And when she claims she was physically reprimanded for disobedience to Moody's whims, I believe her. Why? Because it happened to me along with too many more incidents to write about here. The biggest difference was that my ordeal took place in Norfolk, Virginia in between 1974 and 1978. I can only imagine how terrible it might have been had I agreed to accompany my ex-husband back to Iran. And for the record, I had several other American friends also married to Iranian men that endured some of these same hardships.
Yes, I'm well aware of Seyyed Mahmoody's own account of what happened. But I have a third perspective, and thank you, I'll at least believe my own story. Betty simply gave an affirmation to my own truth.
posts on 3/3/2010 11:44:54 PM
My heart reaches out to all you women. I very much understand that trials of hardship, very many of which I have experienced myself. However, I do pose the question to everyone defending Betty Mahmoody. I am NOT saying that there isnt any truth comming from her lips to our ears, But I really do wonder how many people have researched both sides of the story. You all have seen the movie "Not Without my Daughter" by Betty Mahmoody, how about watching the documentary "Without my Daughter" by Seyyed Mahmoody". youtube it or whatever. I believe that there are two sides to every story; you have what he said, what she said, and than you have the truth. So those of you who have put the effort and have the common sense to know that with two people you have three stories thank you for not being ignorant, and being open minded enough to come up with your own conclusion based on the facts in your own research. To all of you other ignorant people, I hear they have a story about a purple elephant with pink pokedots on tv too, why dont yall go ahead and start believing that too, after all it was on tv. Give both sides equal weight before developing a bad opinion about whatever.
posts on 2/16/2010 1:03:44 AM
I've listened for years as people disparaged Betty Mahmoody by claiming she embellished and even made up many of the details in her book, Not Without My Daughter, and even today it makes me angry.
I lived a similar version to her life right here in the United States after marrying an Iranian man while in my first year of college. I watched my husband change nearly overnight as he brought one family member after another to this country and our home. What I had believed was a loving relationship became toxic, emotionally, verbally, and physically abusive, and I was terrorized not only by my husband by his family as well. It was the most horrific experience of my life, and I still bear the emotional scars today. I was fortunate enough to escape with my 9-month-old son after my husband began to threaten to spirit him away from me and send him to live with his family in Iran.
I lived Betty Mahmoody's experience 14 years before it happened to her. Believe what you like. It happened to me too.
posts on 2/2/2010 7:11:56 PM
I think Betty is an extraordinary woman who possess both the will and the courage to survive. I was sadden to read some of the comments suggesting that Betty "exaggerated" some of her experiences. Really???? People, this was HER experiences. If you have never been in this woman's shoes then you have no right to call her story, of her experiences, "exaggerations." There are good/bad people in every country and in every culture. I don't think it is respectful to call Betty's experience an exaggeration.
posts on 1/11/2010 10:22:12 AM
I am a 22 year old from the UK. i have never been married or neither do i have children so i have no idea what some of you women must have gone through!! It's women like you that make me proud to be who I am, from listening to your stories it has made me learn to wise and appreicate how powerful women really are! I lived with a violent dad for years so i no how terrible it can be to witness someone treat your mum which such disrespect! the feelings never leave you but it has made me stronger esspecially my attitude towards men! I think betty mahmoody is an extrodinary women like all of you with similar stories!! I totally disagree with people who say she exaggarated her story...they obivously have no idea and wear rose tinted glass..don't judge if you haven't been there yourselves!!!!! I understand that not all men are like this so don't tie them to the same brush but that doesn't have to stop women telling there stories and changing the lives of so many women in similar situations!!
posts on 1/8/2010 3:42:51 PM
We are going to read the book Not Without My Daughter in book Club. Do you offer any questions & answers that would be benifical for discussion?
posts on 1/8/2010 4:03:08 AM
Hi Mam, I could not imagine that any one can actually go through such a horrific & terrifying situation as u & ur daughter Maahtob have gone through after reading " Not Without My Daughter." I beleive only a mother can do this & no one else. I salute u & ur daughter.I also thank u for creating such a wonderful literature.
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