I Never Held You
by Ellen DuBois
Published by DLSIJ Press
Copyright March 2002
A touching journey through pain and loss to healing and acceptance. In I Never Held You, Ellen DuBois shares the sad tale of her own miscarriage and the emptiness that followed. Ms. DuBois describes what happened during her pregnancy, the miscarriage and the reactions of those around her. She explains how she worked though the self-blame and despair, sharing intimate moments in hopes of helping other women who are alone and suffering through the tragedy of miscarriage.
It took Ms DuBois ten long years to reach the point that she could put her heart onto paper. The pages are palpable with emotion. You will know what it must be like to carry baby beneath your heart, to dream of holding a precious little one and plan for the future. Then suddenly that dream is snatched away and you are left heartbroken and lost . She makes you feel the pain and strain of a loss that is too often dismissed.
Ms DuBois bares her soul offering the reader sage advice for finding peace and moving on. More importantly she validates the emotional rollercoaster that women who miscarry experience. The book includes an on-line help guide to finding support groups and information on miscarriage. If you've suffered a miscarriage and have never been able to accept and work through your grief Ms. Dubois' book is for you. There are many programs available today, don't suffer alone, find others to help you cope. If you know someone who has miscarried and aren't quite sure how to react. This book is for you. You will better understand the traumatic effects and be better equipped to support your loved one.
Raw and Engaging, I Never Held You is a must read for all women and for those who have loved ones who have suffered through the tragedy of miscarriage.
This report prepared by Ellen M. DuBois