Betty Mahmoody Message Board
Cara posts on 7/24/2007 12:11:28 PM
Jennine - you say it isn't acceptable for a husband to hit his wife in Islam. According to the Koran, if a wife transgresses, a man must talk to her, abandon her, then beat her as a last resort. Whatever equal rights Islam gave women many years ago is moot, because today, a Muslim woman in an Islamic country does not have the right to divorce her husband, or if she does, she has no right to the children. And remember, the terrorists who are causing good Muslims so many problems are doing all these things in the NAME of ISLAM. So they were taught these things by someone, and it probably wasn't taught to them by an Episcopalian.
Eric posts on 7/24/2007 1:38:19 AM
I would like to somehow get into contact with Betty and her Daughter!
My name is Eric and I am presently going through an almost identical situation as Betty did many years ago, but "in reverse". Let me explain a little. I'll leave out most of the details for now. If I tell you everything I truly could write a book just as Betty has done and you or I for now do not have the time.
I was stationed overseas at Incirlik AB Turkey as an enlisted airman. I met this Iranian woman and we got married. We then came to the U.S. and have known each other since 1994. I am since divorced and was married for 7 years, but lived with her for 13 years along with her whole family for the past 7 years. I have a 15 month old daughter with my ex-wife of which the last 5 months I have been unable to see her up until last week. I see Nicole 2.5 hours, twice a week under supervision. I'll give you a minute to do the math on all this. this board doesn't allow me to write anymore.
Jennine posts on 7/18/2007 6:29:55 AM
This message is directed to Anita.
I am Palestinian Muslim Australian and i think that you converting to Islam is great. Insha'Allah you will get the best out of it.
Islam looks different when it is coming out of fox news and media then it does from the holy Quran.
Men and women in Islam have equal rights. In fact women had the right to divorce, own land and property and vote thousands of years before the western world had given those rights.
A husband to hit his wife is NOT accepted in Islam. It is simply part of vicious culture in the Middle east. There are so many things to learn. I wish you the very best.
P.S. You do not need to learn Arabic extremely, as long as you have the right intention, you do not need your tongue.
Deidre posts on 7/8/2007 3:12:07 AM
Canada & Mexico is not part of the U.S.A. If you looked on a map or had learned that school, you'd know that. I am reading Betty's book again. Yes, there are abusieve men in very race as there are abusieve women in every race.
Ginger posts on 6/1/2007 12:51:18 AM
Since the year "Not without my daughter" came out, I have watched it every time. My heart breaks, and I just dont understand the whole issue, but I am so proud of Betty and Mahtob. I hope even after all these years, they know, they matter....they impact.....and we realize their suffering.
Cara posts on 5/21/2007 12:48:51 PM
Betty has been a successful lecturer for the past 20 years or so. She still lectures at private functions, often with Mahtob by her side, who also speaks to private groups. As far as I know, Mahtob has refused all contact with her father, since he decided it would be nice to see her again, many years after they fled Iran. He never wrote her letters or called the house, until she was adult. I don't even understand that.
Karen Bennett posts on 5/21/2007 12:44:53 PM
What has happened to Betty? I am interested in Betty and her daughter, and this site has gone far astray from the original message board.
Babs posts on 5/20/2007 11:53:03 AM
what happened to Betty's daughter. Did her husband ever see either of them again?
civilengineer3 posts on 1/22/2007 1:10:15 AM
Thank you anonymous- I have been waiting to finally post my opinion to this book for 2 days now. I liked your post by the way. I agree I don't know if I would let a current or a future relationship pay for therapy for a past one- doesn't really seem like a good idea to me. Anyway (Maxine you are not going to like my post here). But I don't think that this book is sterotypical at all. I think it is Betty's facts, and opinions as she viewed them to be. I happen to agree with alot of her views on the Iranians as well. I do agree that they have little respect for woman kind, and that causes some of the men in that culture to be quite abusive. I am not prejudice. I know a few Iranian, Indian, and Pakastanie women who feel this way. Maxine, I know what you are going to say, again it is my opinion, and like Natalie I am allowed to express it. I am not saying that American men are wonderful. I am just saying I disagree with Maxine. I think Iranian men can be just as abusive, as any other race of men. And because of their cultural beliefs maybe more so. Just so you know Maxine, before you start something here, I am not going to debate my opinions, back and forth with you like Natalie did. That is my opinion and that is it, take it or leave it.
Anonymous posts on 1/21/2007 10:18:41 PM
Maxine, listen, just some thoughts. Do think it is a good idea that you allowed your boyfriend to pay for your therapy (especially when so much of it has to do with a past reationship)? That would really muddy the waters in the discernment process for me personally, and I would be afraid put undue pressure on my boyfriend.
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